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“An overwhelming feeling…”

Being unable to read is an overwhelming feeling. You believe that you will never make it and lose motivation. Your school mates despise you because you can’t read. When I was in the 1st and 2nd grade I could not understand what was happening to me and why. At the time, I perceived things as a defeat. I felt defeated, I was disappointed with myself. It was only recently that I understood what was happening to me back then, what being dyslexic means. (a boy in the 7th grade)

“The most important thing is to accept our child as he/she is”

It so happened that we had to realize ourselves that our boy is dyslexic. This was when we had to accept that the reason why the boy did not read was not that he was lazy or inattentive, but because he is simply unable to, something prevents him from acquiring this basic skill. All parents with dyslexic children have to go through this phase accept and understand the fact that the child has disabilities and needs special methods and care in order to develop. Moreover, we also have to accept the fact that we cannot solve this problem on our own. On many occasions we need the support of a trained and experienced teacher or speech therapist. For instance, we need this support when the child has to learn a certain lesson and we are wondering whether to try until late in the evening or give up. Or should we leave out only a certain part? And which one?

It is not a secret that children like being praised. This is even more necessary for these children facing difficulties. They like being praised, which is perfectly understandable after so many learning failures. Maybe the most important thing is to accept our child as he/she is, love him/her very much and try to offer permanent support. (a parent)

“My message to the parent: perseverance is the key”

My message to parents with dyslexic children is to be perseverant.

From my own experience, I know that this situation is very hard to accept, but with work, attitude, perseverance, the results are such that it is worth the effort. Children need us; they need love and safety to develop. Parents sometimes get tired, but they must find the power to continue their task. These are not just words, because they are endorsed by experience and work, and our reward is unconditional love. (a parent)

“A lot of love, attention, praises!”

Give your children lots of love, attention, praises! I and my boy  have already got used to dyslexia and I am proud of him because he is still at the top! (a parent)

“A 180 degrees shift is required”

Each afternoon when I felt the burden of responsibility, the doubt of whether I would succeed or not to help my child learn the lesson for the following day was tormenting and painful. We have neglected our friends, sometimes even our relatives, because we dedicated all our free time to look after the child. Starting the moment when a child is diagnosed with dyslexia, a 180 degrees shift is required. Your child is no longer lazy, irresponsible, but incapable of more in the given situation. Accepting this is very difficult, but it is absolutely necessary because this is the only way to offer a warm environment and make progress. It is only now that I understand why it was that I had to put my child’s shoes on and tie his laces when other children his age easily did that. His clothes are always full of spots when he finishes eating, he comes home dirtier than other children, his coat is hanging lose, his cap is on the side, he is dragging his lace. We can’t and we shouldn’t leave these children alone, because they need help both when studying and in other areas of life. They are not as mature as their class mates. Dyslexic children need immense love. We should confirm our love every moment. It is very painful that this is not enough either to chase away their fears, protect them from failures. (a parent)